It could be their idea or their behaviour that is triggering your habit of disapproval. It just means you are attached to your ideas, your way, your ideals. Or you want to stop them getting ahead because you are attached to a picture of your being the front runner in the relationship.
That’s when you see their creation as a threat to you. So you fear and fight. You acclaim your superiority and attack with criticism to ensure their inferiority. All the while you are the embodiment of unhappiness, without realising that you are the creator of your misery.
Can you turn it around? When you embrace, encourage and empower the ideas and ways of others you will instantly notice you are empowering yourself.