Wise Words for You

Blacks enter here?  Whites enter here? Do not enter here?  Do not disturb?  Human property for sale? Where are we going, this society?  Where have we been?  Welcome.  Welcome? Really? Honestly?  Rich,  Rich with money, Rich with jewellery,  Rich with friends,  Rich with fame,  Rich with lust,  Rich with cars,  Rich with houses,  Rich with jobs,  Rich with education,  Rich with power,  Rich with greed,  Rich with vengeance,  Rich with jealousy,  Rich with hatred,  Rich with alcohol,  Rich with drugs,  Rich with politics,  Rich with religion,  Poor, poor, poor. From the shelters,  To the pristine suburbs,  Many minds are not in good neighbourhoods. Behind any wall,  Or any picket fence,  Could lie a comatose, mechanical being,  With a stench of catastrophic debt;  A dark void of one's self. Protection ...

According to research, you can trace who you've become in this life to three types of external factors: 10 defining moments, seven critical choices, and five pivotal people. But first it's important to understand the following terms: Ten Defining Moments:  In every person's life, there have been moments, both positive and negative, that have defined and redefined who you are. Those events entered your consciousness with such power that they changed the very core of who and what you thought you were. A part of you was changed by those events, and caused you to define yourself, to some degree by your experience of that event. Seven Critical Choices:  There are a surprisingly small number of choices that rise to the level of life-changing ones. Critical choices are those that have changed your life, positively or negatively, and are major factors in determining who and what you will become. They are the choices that have affected your life up to today, and have set you on a p...

Here are 3 insights that helped during those “you've got to be freaking kidding me” times: 1. There’s a healing side to pain. When a challenging event happens—a break-up, a sickness, or having your leopard pink car seat covers stolen—the human mind, being what it is, thinks  this  is why you feel badly. You hear it all the time: “Oh, you poor thing for losing your car seat covers.” Or, “She’s such a rat to do this to you.” The truth is, it’s your  perception  of the situation that makes you feel bad. This means that no matter how crumpled-in and dysfunctional you feel, you’re not. It’s just your thoughts that are a bit wonky. And actually, your thoughts on this were always wonky; the situation just exposed them. Take my situation. Everything I’d based my self-esteem on was gone: work, friends, the ability to sit up straight for more than half an hour.     I thought I was upset because I was sick, when the truth is, my si...

Introduction Usually our most traumatic experiences of loss are when a loved one dies. The same kinds of feelings arise with other losses and separations. Loss can include the break-up of a relationship, a miscarriage, the termination of pregnancy, separation from family and friends (homesickness), loss of health, moving house. Other forms of loss may not be so devastating but can still touch us profoundly, such as the death of a pet or the loss of a possession with great sentimental value. Also if you happen to be a medical or nursing student, you may have experienced feelings of loss when a patient dies. With loss comes a strong feeling that part of our emotional world has changed forever and can never be retrieved or made good. Loss is central to our lives. We cannot avoid it. Just as the tree sheds its leaves, making visible the beauty of its structure, so does loss strip us down to our essential nature. Paradoxically it is in this period of seeming abandonment and vulnera...